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Ron, a 5 year old boy, was diagnosed with ADHD (Attention
Deficit Hyper-activity Disorder.) The malady manifests
itself in an inability to concentrate and nearly constant
restlessness. His mother Ruth, a Russian immigrant and
single mother, could no longer cope with the chaos in their
lives and after what seemed like endless attempts at
finding a solution, Ruth tied Ron to a heavy piece of
furniture. Ron could not move. When the social worker
finally arrived three months later, Ron’s body was covered
with wounds and his spirit was shattered. Four months in
Hanita Zimrin
Eli's shelter were enough to
heal his body and begin
repairing his broken spirit but what now? The option
of a residential care facility
is problematic due to
shortage of available spaces
and the concern that Ron
will spend years wandering
between institutions and
various foster families.
Terminating Ruth's parental
rights is not justified in this
instance. Ruth loves her
son and wants to be a good
mother however; she simply
does not know how to cope
with his ADHD. At the same
time, sending Ron back
home is out of the question
since his safety is not assured.
Children like Ron are admitted by court order to ELI's
emergency shelter (ELI House) located in the heart of Tel-Aviv
under extreme circumstances when their lives are in danger.
ELI House is an extraordinary facility which offers safety and
protection, crisis intervention and diagnosis, while at the
same time, it offers ELI’s therapists the opportunity to
develop a long term treatment plan for the children.
While ELI is in fact able to alleviate the trauma for the
overwhelming majority of the children who enter ELI house,
occasionally there is no hope of rehabilitating their families.
In these cases where parents are completely devoid of
appropriate parenting skills, ELI directs its efforts towards
termination of parental rights and towards giving the children
new hope by finding parents who will adopt them.
In many cases however, there is hope for rehabilitating families, but only with appropriate treatment, and
sufficient time. Children like Ron cannot be sent home
because their homes are not safe for them. At the same
time there is no justification for termination of parental
rights, or for breaking up the family and banishing the
child to years in either foster care or institutions. ELI
and the children face a dilemma. There is no place the
children can go; however, staying in the emergency
shelter for an extended period of time is destructive for
the child. In addition, their presence in the shelter could
prevent another child who desperately needs the shelter
from getting in.
ELI is proud to announce that the Viterbi Family
Foundation of San Diego has granted $50,000 towards
the establishment of a new Safe House for abused
children and their families, the first of its kind in Israel.
The Safe House will be a facility where ELI will integrate
the protection of the child, with the therapeutic needs of
the family, thereby continuing services of the shelter, with
the ability to help improve family dynamics, with the
ultimate goal of preparing the families to receive their
children in a safe and healthy home.
The Safe House will be the children’s temporary home.
They will go to school or kindergarten, and spend their
leisure time in the Safe House, in addition to receiving
therapy. But, unlike the traditional shelter, in the Safe
House, the abused children’s parents will visit and stay
with the children for several hours 3-4 days per week.
The parents will spend time with their children, interact
with them under supervision, benefit from psychological
treatment, family therapy, training in parenting skills, and
have the opportunity to practice and improve their new
skills and techniques. In addition, when needed, ELI will
involve other social agencies in the community in order to
address other social and psychological needs.
The Safe House will keep families intact and save many
thousands of dollars that would otherwise be spent on
long term care facilities.
ELI would like to thank The Viterbi Family Foundation for
their generous investment in ELI and these families.
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